Friday, October 19, 2012

Strikes, Bull Fights, and My New Family

My first two weeks in Valladolid have been perfect. Last week I witnessed a student strike, which ended up not being at all what I expected. In America, the only thing we could ever fight for is better cafeteria food and shorter days. Nothing of actual importance. I was honestly very impressed with the student strikes. All across Spain, students are fighting for their rights, protesting against the government, because apparently there were education cuts made. I don't know the exact gist of things, but I do know that the spanish youth population was very enthusiastic about it all. We have already had 3 strike days in the past two weeks. And for the most part, the schools support it because it isn't the school the students are fighting, it is the government. It all has to do with the crisis, meaning this year there will be more strikes than normal. I heard a rumor that every Thursday until Christmas is a strike day? I love how this just happens in Spain, I could NEVER imagine this being possible in the US. 






fighting for my rights?
"If the government doesn't listen, then the students will rebel!"



Paige and I
 Last weekend, I spent the night at Paige's house. That night, we ate pizza and watched Gossip Girl in spanish. The next morning we were on our way to what we thought was a bull fight. We went with her sister, and when she first told us the details we had imagined a bull fight/festival kind of thing. All we knew for certain was that we were taking a bus here and there. Well when the bus picked us up, to our surprise it was a rented mini bus with all of her sisters friends. The "bull fighting ring" was actually a small sandy patch in the middle of nowhere, and the "bulls" were small cows. The day ended up being better than either of us had expected. We unloaded the bus, and then the boys started the barbecue. The lunch was fantastic, way better than any of my friends in the US could have put together! Then the "fights" began. Even though there was no hurting or killing of the bulls. In reality, more people were hurt in the ring, than bulls!

Paige and Laura (sisters) 










Laura (Paige's sister) and I
Why is Paige on a horse led by an eight year old?
my new dog!
I have been in Spain for six weeks and it had not rained at all up until this Tuesday. There has been non-stop rain ever since! Now don't let that fool you though, my mood does not reflect the weather one bit! I am proud to finally announce that I am living with my new family in Arroyo de la Encomienda. Arroyo is a very small pueblo RIGHT outside of Valladolid. And I feel like I have the best of both worlds, the peace and quiet of a small town, but because Valladolid is right around the corner (literally), there are always things to do. Also, Paige and Esther (AFS students) both live in Arroyo too! It is perfect, and my family is really really great! I have two sisters Irene (15) and Alba (18), and my mom's name is Marta. I am still getting to know my new family, but I already feel like I fit in really well. And my room is amazing, I have the loft all to myself!

Valladolid!
I officially start school on Monday, now that all of the paperwork is finally done! I can finally get back into a normal schedule, which I am beyond excited about! Normal is exactly what I need. And this weekend I will be in Ponferrada for an AFS Orientation, which I have been looking forward too since the day I left Madrid back in September. All four AFS students in Valladolid (Paige, Esther, Clement, and I) will be taking the train there and back (Friday-Sunday), and I am sure I will have another long blog post dedicated to this coming weekend!

For everyone in Alexandria, I am extremely jealous that it is spirit week, and today you are having the pep rally, and tomorrow... Homecoming. I can't believe this will be the first time I've ever missed a school dance. But I know you will all look beautiful, and you will have such a great time!

Hasta pronto!

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life.” -Anonymous

A lot has changed since September 30th.

I'm not sure how to begin this post, or how to write it at all for that matter. I don't want to take the topic lightly, but at the same time it isn't my place to give every detail. 

On October 8th, I left Ponferrada for Valladolid. I had decided to switch families, and while it was for the best, I don't wish a situation like this on anyone. It was very difficult, because this family made it possible for me to live in Spain in the first place. When it came down to it though, we had very different lifestyles, and that made adapting to the cultural aspects that much harder. There were other reasons as well, but again it is not my place to share.

Now I am being vague, but I don't want anyone to think that switching families is easy, fast, or emotionless. In reality, October 8th was the hardest day of my life. And you wouldn't know how hard until you are sitting across the dinner table from a family that has given you all they could, and you have just told them that you will be taking the next bus out to a city four hours away for the remainder of your year. It's hard. It's not easy. And It's not a fast process. I write my blog for a few reasons, but mainly because I want to inspire upcoming exchange students. I hope you understand that switching families was not my first choice, nor the easy way out. Switching was my last option, but truly for the best.

I am currently writing this blog post from Valladolid, where I am living with an AFS volunteer Monica, and her Daughter Michelle (who is also a volunteer). Michelle just got back from her year abroad in Finland this summer, and Monica is a study abroad returnee as well. Michelle and Monica have been so great to invite me into their home, where I will be living temporarily until a new host family is found. I am truly grateful for everything AFS has done for me, and I am 100% sure that I made the right decision when choosing organizations. They have helped me every step of the way, and I couldn't thank them enough!

I am sorry for the brief update, but the past weeks have been very hard. There is not much more to say about my situation, other than the fact that I am now extremely happy with where I will be living for the next nine months. I have complete faith that AFS will find me a great family here in Valladolid.

Valladolid.

My new home.

Like my best friend Paige said, "This is it Megg, the moment you've been waiting for your entire life, the beginning of your year." Now I could think back on the past, on the millions of mistakes I've made or I can treat today like it is the first day of the rest of my life. I can treat every day like it's the first day of the rest of my life, and I will because that's the only way to move forward. 

Hopefully I will update soon with my great adventures in my new home! 

¡Chao!

Sunday, September 30, 2012

The Last of my Firsts

The last day of September, the last day of my first month on exchange. The most emotional, rewarding, awkward, and memorable twenty five days of my life. As September comes to an end, and October begins I should start my reflection process.

A few lessons learned over the weeks:

1. Don't get frustrated with your language skills. Since I had eleven years of Spanish, I thought for sure I would be able to understand most of what is going on. First of all, the Spanish people talk a lot faster than your Spanish teacher, no matter how fast you thought she talked. Also, speaking in front of a table of native Spanish speakers is a lot more pressure than speaking in front of a class of twenty tenth graders.

2. Be happy - Fake it till you make it. Absolutely. That was my mistake in the beginning, school was hard and I let it be known. And it is great to talk with your family about it after school, but during school hours you should be trying your best to stay positive. Smile uncontrollably. No one wants to befriend a grump, no matter what country you're from.

3. Don't compare your experience. I spent a lot of time on Facebook either talking to my friends at home or from AFS. I found myself comparing everything I did to one or the other. At one point my liaison Naty said, "Your experience will be different, that doesn't mean it will be any better or worse. Some kids end up in New York, and some kids in the middle of Kentucky. Some ride the subway, and some can say they learned how to churn butter. It is not better or worse, just different."

4. Go Shopping. This seems like a stupid lesson, but I spent the first two weeks of school wearing rainbows and shorts. Even if you go shopping before you leave, and buy "european things", it is still from America. With my red hear, I stick out like a sore thumb. I put off shopping for a few weeks, and I completely regret it. Oh and I totally tried to start the Ugg trend.... never again.


5. Try everything, no matter what it is. Yesterday, I ate Octopus. It wasn't my favorite, but it is a staple food in my province. I couldn't turn it down without at least trying it. Octopus is on the extreme side of things, but everything that is put in front of you, you should at least try. Believe me, there are a lot of things that just aren't as fresh in America. All of the fruits and vegetables that we eat, we grow in the back yard. Spanish cooking is the best their is, so don't be afraid to test a few new things!


6. Say "No". My host mom is very pushy when it comes to what I eat, most Spanish moms are. She expects me to eat as much as the other people at the table eat. In the beginning, I made the mistake of saying "yes", even when I wasn't hungry. Make sure your family knows your regular food intake level, because they are basing your first few weeks on the rest of the year.




I have definitely learned more than that, but those are the first ones that come to mind. In relation to number one, "don't get frustrated with your language skills", I am proud to announce that last night I went to the movie theatre with my friends, and watched an entire movie in Spanish. It took a lot of concentration but I understood about 90 percent. Of course the movie ended up being a chick flick with absolutely no point, but I walked out of that theatre with renewed confidence.


And since we are in the reflecting mood, look at how far I've come in just twenty five days. I went from the overly confident American, to the unsure-of-everything, friendless American, to the competent, friend having American who wears scarves to disguise herself as an European.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

The Up's and Down's

On Friday my English teacher asked the class, "what is your greatest dream in life?" Of course she called on me, as I was the only native speaker in the classroom. The answer rolled off my tongue, "I'm living it."

I know I left things a little negatively with my last post, and If you are considering studying abroad, or currently applying, I want to set things straight. First of all, we have so much in common. I am sure that you are beyond excited about everything right now, as you should be. I hope if you're reading my blog that you're able to relate. A lot of other AFS blogs try to stay pretty positive, and while I want to tell you about all the great things, I hope you also understand that the not so great things are just as vital as I continue to grow throughout my exchange year. I live by the fact that with the up's there will be down's, and with every down there will be an up.

Honestly, I came into this year thinking I was going to be a special case, I was never going to experience the roller coaster of emotions, never be homesick, and never be sad. I have officially been away from home for three weeks, the longest I have ever been away. Just these three weeks have been hectic. School is hard. period. After the first day though, everything get's better. Everything always gets better. I know that as I was beginning to apply I read everyones blogs, and everything that was said I took into consideration, knowing that eventually it would be me. I want you to know that no matter how negative one blog post is, I will never regret my decision. And never have I regretted this decision, not for one second.

This week was hard, but then again with every down though there are too many ups to count. 

First, I had a great weekend. On Friday I went out with some of my new friends from school. (yes, I made friends.) It was a group of about ten of us, and we went to a bar and hung out for a few hours. On Saturday I went shopping with two other AFSers in Ponfe (thats our nickname for Ponferrada), Lani and Shannon, and then their sisters. After trying half of Zara on, we went to a Pizza place in the center of town, and met Derin and Emils (other AFS Ponfe kids). I love my Ponfe chapter, when we are together it is so much fun! AFS discourages a lot of contact with the other kids in the program, but because we all weren't from the US, and Shannon and Lani's sisters were there, we ended up speaking a lot of Spanish. 










Then on Monday I started rugby. My team practices about ten minutes away from where I live, and... it is a men's team. The women that practice with them don't have their own team, so they just join for practices. It is full tackle, even though the men don't tackle as hard as the women do on other women. I thought the co-ed thing would freak me out, and the fact that almost everyone is above the age of 25. It is so fun, and of course I have only been to one practice, but I know I'll love my team. At one point I heard "does anyone speak english? Can anyone explain the drill?", and I replied "I know rugby." The conjugation was probably horrible, and I sounded like a fool, but for the first time in three weeks I could say something confidently. Living in a different country, while living with a new family, making new friends, and speaking a new language is difficult, and 99% of the time you are unsure of yourself. It was great to say that for two hours I knew what I was doing. 

This week I also found out that my youngest sister, Mattie, had a serious concussion in a soccer game and is now suffering from amnesia. She can't remember friends, family, school, and other major aspects of her life. Getting news like that, while being four thousand miles away, makes you want to just jump on a plane and go home. Not because I want to be home, but because I want to be with my sister. I want to be there for her, and at a time when she needs me most. My parents are showing her pictures, and taking her around my city during the day to see what she can put together. It has been about five days, and slowly but surely she is improving. That's all I can hope for from here! 

Like I said, things get better and then worse, and then the best they've ever been. It is a constant uproar of emotions, and it's hard. Though when someone asks me what my greatest dream is, my answer will always be the same. I am so lucky to be living mine. 

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

"When life gets that much harder, it makes you that much stronger." -Carrie Underwood

So you know how I explained all about my first day in that other post? That was a complete joke compared to what I actually had to endure. Friday was by far the most difficult day of this exchange, and my life so far. Being the new kid is hard, whether you are in a different city, state, or country. And up to this point, I've never had to start over in a new place.

I walked up to my school at around 8:15, and the doors don't open until 8:20. There were hundreds of kids surrounding the doors, all in their different groups. I literally walked up, found a space to stand... And stood there. I walked in to my class a little late because here they don't actually have room numbers, they just expect you to know where you are going. Also, you don't get printed schedules, your tutora, which is pretty much a homeroom teacher, writes it on the board and you copy it. You have five different schedules, one for each day. On Friday, I got my schedule for Monday. On Monday, I got my schedule for Tuesday, and most of the time the schedules have mistakes, and again... They never have the room numbers. And if you are an estudiante de intercambio, exchange student, you will not have any idea where to go. I just kept asking different teachers, and finally after a few periods the kids in my class started to help me.

First I had lengua, which is Spanish class. I am learning the same curriculum as heritage speakers, now that is overwhelming. I tried to keep up, but even my eleven years of Spanish had nothing on a teacher speaking for fifty minutes at the speed of light. It is beyond frustrating to not even be able to fill out a simple contact information worksheet about my family. The teacher had to pull up a chair and explain everything in very slow detail, everyone else just kind of stared. Then I had English, and I thought "YES! Now everything will be reversed, I will understand everything." it is no overstatement to say that there was not one word of English spoken the entire period. After that class, we had twenty minutes of recreo, which is just like a recess where you can leave campus and eat and hang out with friends.

Then we went back to class, and I swear to god it was the answer to all of my prayers. Apparently, two times a week we have fifty minutes of study hall! It was great, and because we didn't have anything to study we just talked. At first, it was a little awkward because I had no idea what was going on as everyone pulled their chairs and desks into groups, while the teacher sat down and read a newspaper. Then my friend from the previous post, Diego, invited me to sit with his friends. It was so fun, and I really like his friends. We talked about the US, the differences in school, what classes we are all taking, and they answered all of my questions. Apparently Diego, Claudia, and I all have the same classes. Next, I had technical drawing. Finally, an easy class. I thought wrong. My Spanish vocabulary is not that extensive... So I understood absolutely nothing. But after class, Diego told the teacher that I was an exchange student and he was very understanding. I think I am really going to enjoy that class, and my teacher Javier (It is the most uncomfortable thing ever to call your teachers by their first names) seems like a great teacher. Then we had another recreo and I got to eat the sandwich that my mom made me. During that time, Diego translated everything that Javier had just said during technical drawing.

After recreo, I had math. I have always been good at math, but it doesn't come easy unless I am willing to work at it and if I have a teacher who is willing to work with me. Well, we were doing basic review, and I couldn't do it because the language was so difficult. The language is such a barrier, and any faith that I ever had in my language skills has completely disappeared. When I thought things couldn't get any worse, I walked into french class. When I first selected my classes, I thought I was selecting French 1, somehow I ended up in French 2. It is one thing to be asked a question in Spanish in front of the whole class, but to be yelled at in French.....? I wanted to just die. Then she started speaking Spanish just as fast, and my brain didn't register anything. She was speaking Spanish, in a French accent. I just nodded my head. Everyone kind of yelled at her, explaining I was from the US. Then, I had to explain that not only did I not know very much Spanish, I knew NO FRENCH, and i said it all in my broken version of Spanish. My friend Diego said he would help me switch out of that class ASAP. The teacher finished talking early... So she just let us leave. Like 10 minutes before school ended? It was great. Then I walked outside, met Emils, and we talked about our first day. He said he fell asleep four times, and got yelled at... Four times (haha, glad to know I'm not alone when I say the day was not very successful.)

On days like this, I lose sight of the reason why I chose to be four thousand miles away from my best friends and family in the first place. It is hard to accept that in the beginning I won't have any friends or at least no one to hang out with, but it is all just a part of the transition. Hopefully the friends will come as the language does. And even though right now school is the hardest thing in the world, it will get better, and easier. The more I work at it, the easier it will get. Again, same with the language. It is difficult and embarrassing, but I will improve. It has been two weeks since I left Alexandria, and It is so hard watching others sitting with their best friends at lunch, or eating dinner with their families. I definitely miss that, and while I am beyond content here, I miss everyone so much. It would have been so much easier to just be an eleventh grader at the school where I know everyone, the school where I know the language that the classes are being taught in, the school with printed schedules and room numbers, but I signed up for the good times, along with the bad. The beginning will be a constant struggle, but I don't regret my decision in moving for a second.

And on a more positive note, there is NO WAY it could get any worse from here!

And actually, my day got a lot better, almost instantly. When I got home from school, there was a package and a letter waiting for me. The letter was from one of my best friends, and the package was from my family. It was full of photos and things that my friends had given me before I left that I wasn't able to pack, flavor blasted goldfish (the jumbo size), arnold palmer mix, my straightener, blow dryer, curling iron, and then some school supplies. It was exactly what I needed after a rough day. Then that night my new family took me to their apartment on the beach. It was a beach on the northern coast, and It was beautiful. I can't even describe how relaxing it was, and the perfect end to my not so perfect first week of school.








I have definitely hit a rough patch with school, but it has only been two weeks. i have about forty two weeks to turn things around, and if you look at it that way than I'm sure I'll be back on my feet in no time!

"When life gets that much harder, it makes you that much stronger."

Words that I'm currently living by, thank you Carrie Underwood.